Discover what feels good to your body

As the owner of Happytoys, I regularly receive questions about orgasms, pleasure, and sex positions. For example: “Why can't I always climax during sex?” Or: “Which position is best for an orgasm?”

My answer is actually always the same: there is no magic position that works for everyone. Every body is different. What feels fantastic for one person might do nothing at all for another. But by experimenting with different positions, tempos, angles, and types of stimulation, you can discover what gives you the most pleasure.

For many women and people with a vulva, clitoral stimulation plays an important role in reaching an orgasm. Penetration can be wonderful, but sometimes extra stimulation is exactly what is needed. And of course, you can fully experiment with that during sex.

Below, I share five positions you can try if you are looking for more pleasure, more intense stimulation, and perhaps even a fantastic orgasm.

1. Legs up: an exciting position for deep stimulation

This position begins while you are lying on your back. You can bring your legs up and, for example, place them against or over your partner's shoulders. This changes the angle of penetration and the sensation can feel very different from the classic missionary position.

Play with the angle

You absolutely don't have to be super flexible to try this position. Feel free to bend your knees or use a pillow under your hips for extra support.

The fun thing about this position is that you can experiment together with the distance, angle, and movement. Small changes can sometimes make a surprisingly big difference in how the stimulation feels.

Have you discovered which movements you like? Make sure to tell your partner. Good sex isn't about guessing what the other person likes, but about discovering what you both enjoy together.

2. Doggy style: intense pleasure and easy to combine with clitoral stimulation

It’s for good reason that doggy style is one of the best-known sex positions. The pose offers many possibilities to vary with depth, tempo, and angle.

You can be upright on your hands and knees, but you can also lean forward a bit further or rest your upper body on the bed. Try out different postures and discover what feels good.

Extra stimulation during doggy style

A major advantage of this position is that there is easily room for extra stimulation of the clitoris. This can be done by hand, by your partner, or, for example, with a small vibrator.

Some people love combining penetration and clitoral stimulation. Others prefer one type of stimulation at a time. There is no right or wrong; it’s about what feels good to your body.

You can also vary by placing a pillow under your belly or hips. That can not only be more comfortable, but it also changes the angle of penetration.

3. Cowgirl and reverse cowgirl: you have control

Do you want to decide for yourself what happens? Then cowgirl is a great position to experiment with.

With the classic cowgirl, you are on top of your partner. This gives you a lot of influence over the movement, speed, and angle. You can move up and down, but also make slow, circular movements with your hips.

Discover your favorite movement

Precisely because you are in control, you can easily discover which movements feel best. Perhaps slow and sensual works best for you. Or maybe you discover that a certain angle provides much more stimulation.

With reverse cowgirl, you are facing away from your partner. Here, too, you can play with your posture and movements.

My advice? Try not to be too concerned with how you look. Sex is not a performance. It is about feeling, relaxing, and enjoying.

4. Missionary, but with a twist

The missionary position is sometimes seen as a bit standard, but don't underestimate this position. With a few small adjustments, the feeling can change completely.

For example, you can bend your knees and bring your legs closer to your body. Or you can position your legs differently to create a different angle.

A pillow can make a surprising difference

Try placing a firm pillow under your hips. This tilts your pelvis slightly and changes the angle of penetration.

In addition, the missionary position is ideal when you like to be close together. Kissing, touching, eye contact, and extra stimulation can all be easily combined.

Do you want to make it even more exciting? Then you can experiment together with a compact vibrator during sex.

5. The flat iron: lying back and enjoying intensely

The flat iron is a variation on a rear-entry position, but feels very different from the classic doggy style.

In this one, you lie on your stomach on the bed, while your partner lies behind you or is positioned above you. Because of the way you are lying, the penetration can feel intimate and intense.

Comfort and control

A pillow under your hips can help you find a comfortable position. Moreover, it makes it easier to experiment with the angle.

What I personally like about these kinds of positions is that you can choose what atmosphere you want to create. Calm, romantic, and sensual, or perhaps a bit more exciting and energetic. By playing with tempo, touches, and communication, you make the experience your own.

The secret? Get to know your own body

If there is one tip I really want to pass on, it is this: discover what you like yourself first.

Solo play or masturbation can be a great way to discover different types of touch and stimulation. What pressure feels good? What tempo? Do you like constant stimulation or variety?

The better you know what you like, the easier it often becomes to share that with a partner.

Feel free to use a sex toy to experiment

A vibrator can help you discover different types of stimulation. For example, there are compact vibrators for targeted stimulation, rabbit vibrators that can stimulate multiple zones, and toys you can use together with your partner.

A toy can also be a fun addition during sex. It does not have to replace your partner, of course; just see it as an extra opportunity to discover what you both enjoy together.

Communication makes sex even more fun

Ultimately, the very best sex position is the one in which you feel comfortable, relaxed, and aroused.

So, dare to talk during sex. Say what you like, ask your partner what he, she, or they enjoy, and don't be afraid to try something new.

Sometimes you’ll immediately discover a new favorite position. Sometimes you’ll think: well, once was enough. Both are perfectly fine!

My most important advice? Let go of performance anxiety. An orgasm is fantastic, but sex doesn't always have to end in climaxing to be great. Enjoying each other's bodies, tension, intimacy, and new discoveries is just as important.

Have fun exploring!

Love,
Simone
Happytoys – better Happy than Easy