Samson sex: Finding intimacy in a busy family life

Children, work, sports, grocery shopping, and a packed schedule. For many parents, quality time together often falls by the wayside. The concept of Samson sex actually emerged from this relatable situation: a short, intimate moment while the children are distracted, for instance, by a television program. In 2016, the term was even named Word of the Year in Flanders. The name SamsonSex comes from the following scenario, which may be quite familiar... on a Sunday morning, you sit the kids in front of the TV and put on Samson and Gert... the children stare mesmerized at the Flemish TV series... you sneak back upstairs, into the bedroom, lock the door, and that’s how you get a little time for your partner... until either the episode ends or one of your kids calls out "I need to go to the toilet"... and just like that, the mood is gone.

Although the name might sound funny, the subject touches on a serious challenge: how do you keep intimacy alive when you have a busy family life?

Why is intimacy important?

A healthy relationship isn't just about conversation and shared activities. Physical intimacy can also contribute to:

more connection; relaxation; less stress; more self-confidence; a stronger emotional bond.

Especially when daily life demands a lot of energy, it can help to consciously make time for each other.

Make time for each other, even when things are busy

Many relationship coaches advise planning intimacy as seriously as a dinner date or a gym appointment. That doesn't have to be boring or predictable at all.

Choose a moment when you can relax

Don't always wait until late at night when everyone is exhausted. During the day or during a quiet moment can often work better.

Create the right atmosphere

A tidy bedroom, calm music, or massage oil can help to relax more easily.

Comfort makes the difference

A high-quality lubricant or a massage product can increase comfort. Take a look at the collection of lubricants on Happytoys, for example, or read the usage tips in the blogs about sexual health and intimacy.

Sex toys can enhance intimacy

Many couples discover that sex toys are a fun addition to their sex life. They can provide more variety, new experiences, and extra stimulation.

Popular choices include:

compact mini vibrators;

rabbit vibrators;

G-spot vibrators;

couples' toys;

app-controlled toys for long-distance relationships.

Within the Happytoys range, the Seven Creations Ladyfinger Mini Vibrator, the Seven Creations Mini Rabbit Vibrator, and the ToyJoy Designer Edition Athena Tapping Sensation Vibe are examples of compact toys suitable for discreet use.

Don't forget maintenance and hygiene

Proper maintenance extends the life of sex toys and contributes to safe use.

Think of:

a suitable toy cleaner;

a storage pouch;

lubricant that matches the material of the toy.

Also read the informative blogs on Happytoys about the safe use and maintenance of sex toys.

Open communication remains the most important thing

Whether you choose to plan a moment together or make time for each other spontaneously, the most important thing is that both partners feel comfortable.

Talk about:

desires;

boundaries;

fantasies;

new ideas;

what feels good.

An open conversation often ensures more relaxation and more pleasure.

Frequently asked questions about Samson sex

Is Samson sex an official term?

Yes. The word became known in Flanders after it was named Word of the Year in 2016 and refers to intimacy while children are safely distracted.

Is it normal for parents to have less time for intimacy?

Yes. Many parents find that young children require a lot of time and energy. Consciously making time for each other can help keep the relationship strong.

Which sex toys are suitable for couples?

That depends on your preferences. Popular choices include compact vibrators, G-spot vibrators, couples' toys, and app-controlled toys.

Where can I find more inspiration?

On Happytoys you will find extensive buying guides, blogs, and product information about vibrators, couples' toys, lubricants, and accessories.