Hands are surprisingly capable

A handjob is perhaps one of the most well-known forms of sexual pleasure, yet it is not always talked about very much. A shame, I think!

I am Simone from Happytoys, and I believe that sex should be fun, relaxing, and personal above all else. There is no perfect manual that works for everyone. What one person loves, another might find less pleasant.

The most important thing? Attention, communication, and a little bit of lubricant.

In this blog, I share a few simple tips to make a handjob a relaxing and pleasurable experience.

Start slowly and discover what feels good

Less is often more

A common mistake is using too much pressure or speed right away. Precisely by starting slowly, you can discover what your partner is sensitive to.

Use different movements and mix things up. Sometimes subtle touches are more pleasant than a firm motion. And don't forget that it's not just about one spot: the whole body can be part of the experience.

Ask what your partner likes

Everyone is different. That is why communication is perhaps the best tip I can give.

A simple question like “Do you like this?” can help immensely. You don’t have to know it all yourself. In fact, discovering together what feels good can be a really fun way to get to know each other better.

Lubricant makes a big difference

Why lubricant can be so great

Dry hands and skin naturally cause more friction. A good lubricant can make the touch much smoother and more comfortable.

At Happytoys, you will find various types of lubricant. A water-based lubricant, for example, is versatile and easy to clean.

A product that I find interesting for this is the Superhero Glide by Pjur. You can find this within our Happytoys collection:

Superhero Glide 100 ml by Pjur

Choose the right type of lubricant

There are different types of lubricant, including water-based and silicone-based products. Which one fits best depends on what you are using it for and which materials it comes into contact with.

My advice: always check the product information and material compatibility, especially when you are combining lubricant with a sex toy.

Hands are not the only tool

Discover a masturbator

Sometimes you want to treat yourself and you don't need anyone else at all. Then a masturbator or stroker can be an interesting alternative.

These toys are specially designed for solo use and are available in all kinds of shapes, materials, and designs.

At Happytoys, we have various masturbators and strokers in our range, including the Anal Stroker by NS Novelties Pocket Pals.

Discover the Anal Stroker from NS Novelties

The Pop Sock Textured Stroker by CalExotics is also an example of a compact stroker that you can use when you want to try something different.

Pop Sock Textured Stroker from CalExotics

Discovering together is the most fun

Use different touches

A handjob doesn't always have to feel the same. Try alternating the pace, pressure, and touch. Take your time and see how your partner reacts.

You really don't need to know any complicated techniques. Attention and relaxation often go a long way.

Don't forget the rest of the body

One of my favorite tips is not to focus exclusively on the genitals. A touch on the stomach, legs, back, or chest can make the experience much more personal.

After all, it is not just about the end result, but also about the journey to get there.

A good conversation is perhaps your best sex toy

Listening works better than guessing

Everyone has different preferences. That is why I would never say there is one specific technique that works for everyone.

Ask, listen, and try out together what feels good.

And if something doesn't feel right? Then you just change it. It can be that simple.

Happier than Easy

At Happytoys, we don't say “Happier than Easy” for nothing. For me, that also means that sexuality doesn't have to be complicated.

Whether you are discovering together what you like, getting started with lubricant yourself, or trying a masturbator: above all, choose what suits you.

A little curiosity, a relaxed atmosphere, and good communication will often take you a long way.

My final tip from Simone

Don't turn it into an exam. 😉

You don't have to be perfect at everything. Sexual pleasure is actually about discovering, trying out, and getting to know each other.

And sometimes a little bit of lubricant, a good conversation, and above all, lots of attention is all you need.

Love,
Simone from Happytoys