... without getting "caught"

A little tension can do wonders for your sex life. For many couples, the idea of being intimate in a special place is an exciting fantasy. Not because you actually want to be seen by everyone, but precisely because of the feeling that you are experiencing something special and a little bit naughty together.

From a romantic evening on the balcony to an exciting hotel room or a secluded spot during a vacation: sometimes it is the setting itself that is enough to significantly ramp up the tension.

In this blog post from Happytoys, we share a number of ideas for exploring that fantasy in a fun, sensible, and—most importantly—mutual way.

1. Make a list of exciting places together

Start simply at home. Which places do you find exciting?

Consider, for example:

• A hotel room with a nice view

• A private balcony

• A vacation cottage

• A secluded spot in nature

• A hot tub or private spa

• A tent during a romantic camping trip

• A bedroom with large windows

• A special spot while on vacation

The most fun part is for both of you to make a list and then see which fantasies you have in common.

And of course: always choose a place where you have privacy and where you won't involve anyone else unwantedly.

2. Semi-public can be exciting enough

You don't need to actually be intimate in the middle of other people to get that exciting feeling.

A place where you know no one will just walk in, but where you have the feeling of being outside your normal environment, can already provide an extra adrenaline rush.

A hotel room, for instance. The knowledge that there are other people in the same building while you have your own private world can be surprisingly thrilling.

A private balcony, a vacation home, or a fenced-in garden can also provide that feeling.

3. Choose your location consciously

Spontaneity can be fun, but a little advance planning makes the experience much more pleasant.

Ensure that your location is truly private. Pay attention to other guests, neighbors, staff, and any house rules.

After all, an exciting experience is only fun when you both feel comfortable and others don't become unwanted witnesses.

4. Think about your outfit too

A nice outfit can start the tension before anything even happens.

It doesn't always have to be complicated lingerie. A beautiful babydoll, sexy bodysuit, bodystocking, or a pair of stockings can be enough to make you feel different.

The fun part is that you can choose a theme together.

Are you going for romantic and elegant? Or something naughtier?

For example:

Sexy lingerie + stockings + an exciting night out.

Or:

A beautiful dress + lingerie underneath + a hotel room for the two of you.

Sometimes the knowledge that you are wearing something special under your clothes is enough to build the tension throughout the whole evening.

5. Start slowly

You don't have to go from zero to a hundred immediately.

Building tension can be incredibly fun in itself. A long kiss, teasing each other with glances, or daydreaming together about what you're going to do later can be just as exciting as taking immediate action.

Ultimately, it is not just about the location, but especially about the feeling that you are experiencing something special together.

6. Keep it spontaneous

One of the best aspects of an exciting location is that it feels different from home.

Therefore, you don't need to make an elaborate plan.

Let the evening take its own course. Maybe it starts with a drink, then a massage, and eventually you end up in bed together.

A little bit of spontaneity can turn an ordinary evening into a memory you'll laugh about later.

7. Use a small toy

An exciting moment doesn't have to be complicated.

A small, discreet vibrator, for example, can easily fit in a bag or toiletry kit. This allows you to add something extra to your romantic evening together.

Preferably choose a compact and quiet model if you value discretion.

The advantage of a small toy is also that you can easily take it with you on a weekend getaway or vacation.

8. Don't forget the aftercare

After an exciting evening, you obviously just want to relax.

Therefore, take along some tissues or wet wipes and make sure you leave everything tidy. Especially when you aren't at home.

Having a shower, cuddling, or chatting afterward makes the experience complete.

9. Most importantly: do it together

An exciting location is only really fun when you are both enthusiastic about it.

Talk about your boundaries and expectations beforehand. What do you find exciting? What do you absolutely not? And when does a situation no longer feel comfortable?

Furthermore, a fantasy doesn't actually have to be acted out. Just talking about it can sometimes be incredibly arousing.

Perhaps you will discover a completely new fantasy during such a conversation.

Turn an ordinary evening into something special

The nice thing about exciting sex is that you don't always have to come up with something grand. A different setting, nice lingerie, a bit of fantasy, and above all, time for each other can be enough.

So grab that overnight bag, pick out a nice hotel room, put on your favorite lingerie, and let the evening unfold.

Because sometimes, a little tension is exactly what your sex life needs.

Love,
Simone
Happytoys.nl